Women are 6 times more likely to experience PTSD, developing into anxiety and depression because of our gender, yet most PTSD research is on war veterans and castrated male mice only. Crazy right ... since neither have been born with a womb or have female hormones coursing through their bodies!
Females experience different types of trauma on a much more personal level. For example:
Unexpected birth complications.
Sudden miscarriage or baby loss.
Sexual assault.
Hearing the words ‘you will never have kids.’
Your husband is having an affair, leaving you & your children facing an uncertain future.
Domestic violence.
When the eldest or youngest child leaves home.
Really ANYTHING unexpected that results in a negative or fearful outcome, has the capacity to be labelled as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder – leaving emotional scarring.
Of course males can also experience traumatic episodes for reasons of their own and there are always exceptions to the rules, but generally speaking, women psychologically process trauma much differently to men.
As females we attach EVERYTHING to emotion, whereas men are generally more equipped to let go of trauma and get over things faster. This is why we often have trouble understanding them, and vice versa.
ANALOGY
Imagine you are an iPhone – and therefore have been desperately awaiting a software update to help clear a glitch in your system that you know can't be repaired with Samsung parts.
You see, both phones do similar things and achieve similar outcomes, they just need COMPATIBLE software that is uniquely designed for their own specific hardware. Men and women are the same.
Women are born nurturers (with a womb) whether we have had kids or not.
We are heart-centred (emotionally wired).
Our monthly cycle dictates our moods and energy, from week to week, whether we still get a period or not, because our cells hold a memory of this.
We are much more intuitively connected than men and detail focused – noticing every little thing, listening to too much internal and external noise, which can drive us and others nuts!
Because of this there is no such thing as a unisex ‘one type’ brain/body/nervous system etc.
CREATRIX® is the UNIQUE “SOFTWARE” SOLUTION for WOMEN. Unlike all other processes, Creatrix® is EXCLUSIVELY designed FOR THE FEMALE MIND, making it revolutionary in the world of personal development and psychology for women, offering a permanent solution, not a temporary or band aid fix.
6 ELEMENTS THAT MAKE CREATRIX® WORK SO WELL FOR WOMEN
1. It’s gender specific. Created by a woman specifically for women.
2. It works in alignment with your head, heart (nurture), gut (intuition) and female hormones, where many other processes only work on one element, forgetting the others.
3. Epigenetics – Creatrix® works on your core inherited emotions, patterns and limiting beliefs. Taking you back to past generations where the problem first started, and before it even existed, removing it from the core. ** Epigenetics is the emotional scarring and behavioural patterns passed down to us from generation to generation. Creatrix® was designed with that in mind.
4. Safety – many therapies have you reliving a traumatic event that causes you further trauma. Creatrix® doesn’t. We are working on your thoughts/feelings around it – not the event itself.
5. It replaces negative with positive. When you take something out, you must put something back in its place, otherwise you are left with holes that can refill again with nasty things you don’t want. This makes Creatrix® PERMANENTLY EFFECTIVE.
6. You take ownership – it’s not me feeding information into you, it’s you working on yourself. I only facilitate the process by taking you to the place in your mind where you can get your own learnings, epiphanies and self-realisations.
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WATCH VIDEO: Balloon Pop Technique
Think about whatever it is that is currently causing you stress - maybe it's a memory that is causing you to FEEL emotions like; anxiety, hurt, guilt, sadness, anger, etc.
Simply i magine that where ever in your body you FEEL that emotion (causing you stress) is the air you have blown into a balloon.
Now you know what a balloon looks like when it's full and also when it is popped ... it's just a bit of shrivelled up rubber, right?
Imagine that you hold a big sharp needle and pop that emotion filled balloon.
Then ask yourself; "where has the emotion gone?" POP! Just like that, it is has vanished! And so has the feelings you had in your body.
If you'd like a copy of my eBook which contains more stress relieving techniques or you need help to permanently eliminate feelings that are constantly being triggered, contact me to arrange a phone call.

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Be yourself,” and for many, that’s easier said than done. It’s not easy to show all sides of yourself - the good, the bad and sometimes the ugly - without feeling vulnerable and fearful of rejection.
Letting go of that fear can be challenging but also life-changing.
I used to associate vulnerability with weakness. More often than not, I would rather pretend everything’s OK than have to deal with my uncomfortable emotions, or worse; be judged by them. My head swam with limiting beliefs and negative thoughts:
I'm a Life Coach - I must be strong!
What will they think of me if I break down?
Will I fall short of their expectations?
They won't understand
I feel shameful, out of control and embarrassed
I'm not good enough
But when you think about it, vulnerability is actually an act of bravery - it takes courage to be real.
It’s about being stronger than the fear of judgement , rejection and shame. It’s committing to awkward conversations when we’d rather change the subject. It is raw, messy and hard. But vulnerability is often beautiful and filled with “me too!” and "a-ha" moments.
When we let our walls down and we share our truth, vulnerability connects us to each other like nothing else.
Here are 5 Ways Vulnerability Made Me More Beautiful:
1. I CREATED DEEPER CONNECTIONS
There is an inspiring TED talk by Brené Brown called The Power of Vulnerability where she talks about how important vulnerability is to establish connections between people. As she said, it is when we share that we can connect. While I was listening to her speak, I was reminded of how it was in my most vulnerable times that I bonded with people (sometimes by surprise) who felt the same way I did.
Everyone has a struggle of their own. You are not alone. But when you don’t open up about what’s going on, you don’t make room for deep connections or help to appear.Being vulnerable is not just opening up to other people, but also opening up to yourself. It’s about being more aware and accepting of yourself.
2. I REALISED IT’S OK TO BE IMPERFECT
There is no such thing as perfection. It is unobtainable and the appearance of it is fake. No one can reach you (nor will they want to) if you place yourself up on a pedestal looking down on others. When we share our imperfections with others, we open up the door for other people to be vulnerable as well.
With social media, we tend to think that others have the perfect life … they certainly portray it in their feeds. The thing is, we forget that we don’t know the whole story. That is why it is so refreshing to see someone you follow talk about their struggles, imperfections and flaws. The truth is, no one has it all together. There is always someone out there who is going through similar things and can relate to your story.
3. I FOUND THE COURAGE TO ASK HELP - AND FOUND IT!
One of the hardest things for most people to admit is that they need help. But what vulnerability taught me is that it is only when you are willing to admit that you need help that you will find it, and make room for growth to enable you to move forward. It can be easy to trick yourself into believing “everything’s ok” and “I will figure it out on my own,” but sometimes you just can’t do it alone .. and there is no shame in that.
4. I BECAME MY OWN BEST FRIEND
I fell in love with my own company. When you stop relying on others for your happiness - you also stop putting pressure and expectations on your relationships, and they start becoming more enjoyable. It was always in those moments when I pushed myself to be something that I am not that I felt the most most alone. Becoming my own best friend has put an end to that. At the end of the day … no one has to love and accept me - but me.
If you feel you can’t be truthful and have to play pretend to feel accepted by those around you … my darling, you are with the wrong people. Authenticity and staying true to who you are is much more important for your mental well being ... it is also more attractive to others. An original is always worth more than a copy!
5. BY BEING VULNERABLE, I ENCOURAGE OTHER PEOPLE TO GROW
Letting my guard down and being more open and vulnerable helps me to help others open up and find their own ways to embrace change. As humans, we long to be heard, understood and accepted, and you will only achieve true connection by being vulnerable. You will be challenged and you will grow from it, therefore; inspiring others to do the same.
I will leave you with a Brené Brown quote:
“ Vulnerability is not winning or losing.
Its having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
V ulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage."

Loving yourself means caring for yourself deeply, making your sleep, nutrition, mental well-being, happiness and health a priority.
I certainly slip up from time to time but when I do I take a breather ... I feel soooo much better. I walk, swim or read a book or meditate and a few times a year I organise to get away with the girls to unwind and have some fun - away from the family, work and all the demands that come with every day life. It's not being indulgent or selfish - it’s necessary!
So I hope you bookmark this, print it out for yourself or take a screen shot on your cellphone and keep it close for those times when you slip up and fall off track and it feels like your head is about to explode.
Take a deep breath with me and read the following out loud (or in your head).
1. Your job can wait (and it needs to).
You're a much better worker, creative thinker and faster executor when you take care of yourself, which means the project that will take your frazzled, overwhelmed mind four hours will take your well-rested, clear head two. It's always worth it to get adequate sleep and make your "me time” a priority, so you can show up to whatever task you have at hand as your best self and not some cranky pants who snaps at everyone. Believe me; your work will thank you for it.
2. Your health depends on it.
Seriously! This is a pretty obvious one. Have you ever noticed that after a crazy, stressful week of pulling long hours at work and feeling overwhelmed, you finally get to the weekend and you wake up sick and don’t leave the bed? Oh darling, if you don’t put yourself first, your body will certainly kick in and force you to! Stress and lack of sleep weaken your body’s immune system and leaves you more vulnerable for all sorts of nasty illnesses. Don’t even risk it!
3. Your romantic relationships will flourish.
Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for one, I guarantee that your partner will feel more enamored with you and more fulfilled in the relationship when you're not afraid to make yourself a priority. First, by taking the necessary time for yourself, you give your partner the freedom to take that time for them. Everybody wins, everybody’s happy! Second, when you're well rested, relaxed and centered, you're much more fun to be around. It’s OK if your partner misses you for a few nights because you need some time out to receive love of a different kind. They should want that for you btw. Self-nurture with a yoga session, a massage and a nice long bath, girly banter and giggles. The version of you that they will get afterward will have them urging you to get away more often. They don’t want a stressed-out partner any more than you do.
4. Your friends and family will benefit.
You think your friends and family don’t realise when they're talking to you and you’re half asleep, not listening to them or mentally distracted? Think again! These people know you best and love you most, they would much rather have you happy, healthy and clearheaded when they see you. Yes, even if that’s a little less often because you needed to take some time for yourself ... better still encourage them to join you so you can benefit together.
And your kids will love you for it ... even if at the time of leaving they make you feel guilty for it. In the end, you become the role model you want for them, setting an example that’s ok for them to live themselves too.
5. Most importantly, you'll start smiling and enjoying life more.
When you are at your happiest, you are at your most helpful to the world. You look better and you attract better. We should always strive to be our happiest and do those things that make us happy, every day. You show others how to treat you when you start showing up for yourself more.
So don’t be afraid to clear your schedule for some restorative time out. After all, you are pretty fabulous, and your aim should be to stay that way 💗

The Past can be a great teacher. Reflecting on it can help us to learn more about ourselves, what went right, what went wrong and what changes we can make going forward.
1. What one event, big or small, made you happiest?
2. If you had to describe your past year in 3 words, what would they be?
3. What new things did you learn or discover about yourself?
4. What achievement are you most proud of?
5. What was the best news you received?
6. Are there any regrets?
7. Who have you enjoyed spending the most time with?
8. Has this year been successful for you? Personally, professionally, financially
9. Who was the No.1 person you could always rely on for support?
10. Which new skills did you learn?
11. Who has made you feel that anything is possible?
12. If someone wrote a book about your past year, what kind of genre would it be? A comedy, love story, drama, thriller or something else?
13. What was the most important lesson you learnt in the past year?
14. What emotional or mental block(s) have you successfully overcome?
15. What challenges have you faced?
16. What changes have you had to make?
17. Who were you able to talk to and receive the most honesty and clarity from?
18. What was your biggest break-through moment career-wise?
19. Has the people you surround yourself with been mostly positive, uplifting and supportive?
20. What have you thought about more than anything else?
21. Did you experience anything profound or life changing?
22. Who has inspired you to live better, do more, be more?
23. Has your job satisfied you personally, professionally and financially?
24. What was your most common mental state this year (e.g. happy, excited, sad, anxious)?
25. Did you to any personal self-development this year?
26. What major goal did you lay the foundations for?
27. Which worries turned out to be completely unnecessary?
28. What experience would you love to do over again?
29. Have you learnt to love yourself completely body, mind, soul?
30. What have you forgiven or learnt to let go of?
31. Has your overall outlook on life changed … how has it changed? Does it need changing?
32. What was the biggest problem you solved?
33. What was the nicest thing someone did for you this year?
34. What was the nicest thing you did for someone else?
35. What relationships have you neglected this year? If it includes yourself & the people from #7,9,11,17,22 – move to rectify next year. Who you surround yourself with is important.
36. What one thing would you do differently if you could and why?
37. What fears have held you back?
38. Upon reflection of this year, what advice would you give yourself now?
39. Moving forward; has this year set you up to succeed next year?
40. What changes do you need to make to start living your best life NOW?

Imagine … you are driving your car from A to B and it means having to go past populated areas. Your heart is broken as you've just been severely disappointed by an event or a person. How is it you can get yourself to your destination in that state, without consciously focusing on every turn? You looked in mirrors, changed lanes and gears without running any red lights or running any one down. Yet you don't remember the trip. Has this happened to you? You did it automatically, right?
How many times have you gone to the toilet or had a shower while deep in thought without forgetting to clean your body parts in the process?
It’s simple! Your conscious mind is the driver. Your (UM) unconscious mind or sub-conscious (as some refer to it), is the satellite navigation system. If it is programmed with all the wrong information, it will have you driving around in circles getting nowhere, you are either going to run out of fuel or crash. But when programmed with the right information, it will get you from A to B without a problem.
Did you know that we only think with 5-10% of our conscious mind??? That means that the Subconscious aspect of your mind represents the other 90-95% of your total brain function.
I wonder how many UNSUPPORTIVE habits you've learnt over your lifetime that your unconscious mind is busy doing for you by default because it thinks that’s what you want. Your UM takes orders from your conscious mind, which is affected by all external factors (outside of you). It thinks you want that thing you are focused on. So if you are focused on being 'broke' all the time, your unconscious will look for more ways to bring you that.

It can be difficult to be in a relationship if you don’t have a great deal of self-love. Often the insecurities are your own internal battles that lead to conflict with others, and sometimes that may result in a breakup if the issues aren't dealt with correctly.
A common piece of advice is that you have to learn to love yourself before you even get into a relationship. But what if you are already with someone? Does it mean you have to part in order to do the work on yourself before finding love again? Do you have to meet some self-love prerequisite before you qualify for a relationship?
Of course it helps to be entering a relationship with a strong feeling of self-love. But I also know through personal experience that if you are in a partnership where self-love is lacking, but the communication between you is strong, things can be turned around.
Learning self-love is a continual process, not a switch you can flick on and off. I've become quite addicted to learning more about myself and improving areas that need work - for me and others.
My husband and I were having a conversation about our relationship recently. Having been together since our teens we are quite in-sync now and agree on most things, but if I’m to be honest, there are times when I could literally throttle him and I’m sure there has been times when he has felt the same about me.
We weren’t talking about how much we love each other, but about how much we enjoy this shared space between us, this thing we call our relationship - where communication is so important.
Over the course of 30+ years together our relationship has challenged us, evolved and helped us understand ourselves and each other better.
Looking back I now see that I was heavily co-dependent on my husband for happiness, validation, and self-worth, which would have left him struggling at times.
The difference between then and now is the self-love I now have. In the past I was insecure and needy, and I didn’t yet know who I was or what I wanted from life.
Now, after a lot of personal growth and self-realisation, I can genuinely say that I love myself. I am glad to be me, and am grateful that I have the love of a wonderful man who compliments who I am.
Long after the rose tinted glasses came off, we are still in love and very happy together – as partners, teammates, friends, and lovers. The space between us is awesome, supporting, encouraging and empowering.
“An outstanding love doesn’t come from two half-fulfilled people coming together to make one whole, complete life. Outstanding love comes from two whole people coming together to share and enhance their already full and beautiful lives.” ~Pia Scade
HOW TO DEVELOP SELF-LOVE IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP
1) Maintain a degree of space and independence
It’s unhealthy to allow the relationship to absorb your identity and to lose yourself as a person. Keep your own rituals, your own activities, and your own friends. Spend a healthy amount of time apart doing your own thing to nurture your own soul and interests.
2) Remember you are the master of your own destiny
Your partner can’t make you happy. Only you can do that. He or she can enhance the happiness you feel inside yourself, but it is not their responsibility to make you happy. If you rely on them for happiness you will drain the relationship. Make sure you take the responsibility yourself.
Choosing happiness means accepting that the only person you can change - is you. Instead of looking to change others, work on yourself and make sure you meet your own needs and personal standards.
Work through your baggage from the past to help you feel lighter, more present and in control of your emotions.
3) See in yourself what your partner sees in you
Insecure people struggle to see anything good in themselves and are often dismissive of the positive things people see.
Ask your partner what they see in you and what it is about you that they love. This is a great date night exercise for couples. Write a list of twenty things you love about each other and take turns reading them out.
If you do this regularly you will slowly take it on board and start to believe it about yourself. In a relationship you aren’t just learning about the other person, you are also learning about yourself.
4) On the flip side; also be open to constructive criticism
A relationship will hold up a mirror to your flaws. Things we see as unacceptable in others, often reflects our own behaviours or past triggers that we react to. Be open to sharing and learning more about these areas of yourself - no one's perfect! I t doesn’t mean you are a terrible person or that you are unlovable, it just gives you something to work on.
Tip: When giving constructive feedback; start with praise or a positive comment, give the feedback, and then round it off by reiterating the positives once more to soften the edges and make it more palatable.
5) Forgive yourself for your failings
It’s inevitable in a relationship that there will be times you say or do things that you might regret and feel guilty about. Don’t beat yourself up about it - everyone makes mistakes. Admit when you are wrong and apologise when necessary.
6) Remember love is an action, not a feeling
Wise minds have always maintained that love is something you choose to do, not an emotion that you feel … I would agree with this. It’s not our god-given right, it’s something you have to work at. The same is true about loving yourself.
Schedule some “me time” everyday. This is a period where you put yourself first over any other commitments or other people. Make sure you take a lunch break. Wake up early and go for a walk . Do a meditation. Read a book. Simple activities that you enjoy and deserve.
Remember that self-love is an essential ingredient for enjoying happy, healthy, and respectful relationships. When you are secure, confident, and feeling good about yourself you feed positive energy into other people also.
Focus on self-love and see how your love life improves.
Much love, Rae xx

How many SELF-help books, written by OTHER PEOPLE, are you going to read before you finally get that they weren’t written for YOU?
How much meditating & affirmations can one do before you see permanent changes.
How many exciting seminars, courses and conferences of SELF-proclaimed ‘Gurus’ do you need to attend, thinking some of their greatness will rub off on you, before the penny drops that YOU ARE NOT THEM?
How many Healers, Psychics and different Spiritual Modalities are you going to burn through looking for answers, wishing, praying and hoping something changes, before you realise THEY ARE NOT GETTING YOU THE PERMANENT RESULTS YOU ARE AFTER?
How much more time are you going to spend talking to Psychologists and Counsellors before the pain becomes too much and ENOUGH BECOMES ENOUGH?
I hate to break it to you but you are looking in the wrong place if you think someone else can give you all the answers that you seek.
Are you aware of the wisdom that lays dormant INSIDE YOU?
If you are going to spend dollars looking for answers and inspiration, spend it on YOURSELF tapping into the Guru that is inside YOU. Because NO ONE knows YOU and what’s best for you - like YOU DO.
You don't need more lovers.
You don't need more friends.
You don't need to fit in or people please.
And you certainly don't need more opinions and advice from others.
All this is doing is confusing you more and leading you away from the truth of yourSELF.
If you want to change your life and welcome all that lovely abundance that awaits you, you need to do something different.
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Do you know when to stop? Or do you keep feeling like something is wrong with you and you need to heal or fix ‘broken’ parts of you to find your identity?
I did that for years ... searching and trying different healing modalities, spiritual practices, seeing psychics and Coaches hoping to find answers. And it didn’t work.
Then I placed my faith in a world first female specific breakthrough process and my world changed almost overnight.
The head chatter stopped.
The judgement stopped.
The pain of the past stopped.
I stopped caring about what others thought.
I started doing things ‘I thought’ I wasn’t capable of.
I never knew that THIS kind of happiness, peace, contentment and joy was even possible!
The speed of my manifestations were off the hook ... once I got out of my own way.
And it’s something that until we peel back the layers and align to the highest truth of our soul, we will never get to realise.
I was over it - done - finished with searching. Enough had become enough. I had found my solution.
No healing, coaching or outside information even came close to the completeness I now feel ... so why would I waste anymore time or money on other things?
IT WAS NOW TIME TO ENJOY LIFE - MOMENT BY MOMENT.
I LOVE this human experience I am now living.
Its in today and real world connections, love and experiences where all the magic happens. The past has nothing new to offer us and the future is filled with new gifts to be opened everyday - starting with our own eyes.
No resistance.
No more 'just trying' and often giving up.
No more searching ...
Because I have everything I need right here within me right now at the click of my fingers.
I accept myself.
I manifest my people.
I manifest the life I want to live.
And truly sometimes I have to pinch myself.
IT’S A LIFE I WISH FOR EVERYONE.
Though I know it’s only going to be truly accepted and appreciated by those who have had ENOUGH and are READY for next level living.
You know the saying; “DON’T FIX WHAT’S NOT BROKEN”
Well my darling ... YOU ARE NOT BROKEN unless you ‘think’ you are. And if that’s the case it doesn’t matter how many healings you have, books you read, courses you do or Coaches you see, it’s never going to be enough to fix you permanently.
Your inner compass is your most important Life Coach. Fine tune that and the world is your oyster.
And if you don’t know how to access your inner guidance, intuition and wisdom, find someone (like me) who can help you get you there.
Because you deserve it ♥️